About three months now (woo hoo three!) I gave up Diet Coke. It wasn't pretty, my friends. But I did it. Recently I read a great post by Jen Kehl and am going to try to give up one more thing.
I do not think I yell, a lot. But I do know sarcasm is my friend. In my house I am famous for the eye roll (now mimicked by Allie) and when I do lose my temper, well it is as pretty as me off the Diet Coke.
Jen had this great post about parenting Brady-style. Now I know what you are thinking. Every once in a while I wish Marsha got a slap upside the head. I would suggest you go read her version here, but then you might not come back. She has some great posts. So here is my synopsis of her post in a nutshell:
Treat your kids with empathy, cool-headedness, use disappointment to guilt them and most importantly don't yell. Now I am a total fan of living in Kristi's Our Land of Empathy and Wonder. But I am not always empathetic when dealing with my own children, husband and definitely not with the puppy-turned-toddler-dog.
I may use guilt, but only that they have upset me. Not that I am disappointed in their behavior. I am definitely not cool-headed, I blame this on my goal of having the perfect family and why the hell don't they conform to my wishes. And yelling? I don't typically yell unless I am pushed just over the edge of reason. Then the neighbors can hear me.
Again, none of this is the picture of perfect motherhood I was promised in Lamaze class. Although there was screaming there.
Back to Jen, what struck me about her post was that she noticed her son was reacting based on her action. If I roll my eyes at her father, won't Allie do the same behavior? Hell, yes.
Now this might not be the brightest idea during summer vacation. But I am going to try Jen's Brady-parenting style. I will (try to) eliminate yelling, be more empathetic when Allie has an issue and speak quietly.
I figure it is better to master it before homework starts up again. I'll let you know if life becomes calmer or if Allie decides to move in with her crafty aunt.