You know when you graduate high school you know, just know, that you will never forget those who shared those torturous four years with? Then you grow up and move on. One of the wonders of Facebook is reconnecting with friends long forgotten. Lucky for me an old friend, Stacey and I found one another recently.
I am so thankful she is willing to share her challenge today.
MY CHALLENGE: Choosing to truly love all that isn't perfect
Remembering back to where it all started,
trying to have the perfect life. I was on the fast track. Improving my career,
I had just accepted another promotion. Things were going as PLANNED. I became
pregnant and life was awesome. Then IT happened. I started having horrible pain
and realized I had miscarried. Well that was just the beginning…the truth is I
ruptured an organ and had 4 cups of blood in my abdomen. I had gone into shock
and was practically dead. I picked myself up after hitting my head on the
toilet and my husband called 911.
The purpose of this story will become apparent
soon and it’s connection to autism.
On the road to recovery I decided nothing would
stop me from having that perfect life. Despite the fact numerous doctors said I
wasn’t able to have kids I tried again several times. And I failed several
times. But WAIT a minute. I wasn’t failing at all. I never gave up HOPE. If it
wasn’t for hope I wouldn’t have three amazingly complicated mischievous beings.
I got pregnant with my first child and it was
rough. The doctor said try again soon if you two. Not 15 months went by and Matthew
was born. I was so excited but during my pregnancy everyone asked if things
were okay. I only gained 15lbs and didn’t enjoy food. Being my stubborn self I
only paid attention to what I thought was important.
When Matthew was four months old I got my first
sign something wasn’t perfect. My son’s left arm wasn’t functioning correctly.
To my dismay, he needed physical therapy. Then he was diagnosed with autism. So
we worked more and more to pay for therapy he really needed. I think we spent
over $20k of our own money. But, I smiled through the exhaustion. I read books,
studied online, pulled up maps of the brain (that’s the Psychology major in
me). I talked to my customers who were
doctors, teachers, mothers, therapists, anyone who could offer advice. My HOPE
was reaching new levels.
I refused to believe the prognosis that Matthew
will never speak more than 20 years. I am not going to accept that and neither
will God. For He made me super determined. I began researching vitamins, clay
baths, speech therapy and anything that might help my son. We went gluten free,
dairy free and I found solace with my spiritual life coach, Sister Ita.
To this day I say whatever your challenge, find
your inner peace! Find your strength and pray. Find your child and don't let
them go. Don't ever forget the journey, but focus on the end result, the
future. Your child is so much more than our hearts can imagine. Hang in there
through the hard times. Reach for the sky and don't give up your hope.
Love,
Stacey
Mom of Matthew
Thank you, Stacey for sharing. I think all of us struggle loving what isn't perfect in our lives. But a mother's love always trumps all. In addition to being a warrior mom, Stacey is the owner of Vivian's Day Spa in Florida. A place to rejuvenate and find an hour of peace.
What's your challenge is a series that was inspired by a program I created at Abby's school. I am amazed at how honest and hopeful the challenges have been. Thank you to all who have contributed. To submit your challenge, please e-mail me at firebailey@gmail.com
I love your motto, Stacey and definitely think you have a great outlook on life. I also love that the two of you reconnected after many years and so happy that Stacey could have your space today, Kerri to share with all of us. ;)
ReplyDeleteFind your inner peace - I love that!
ReplyDeleteStacey, I am so proud of being your sister in law!
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Thanks everyone for the love and support. Makes a world of difference
ReplyDeleteYou're amazing! A true testament and constant reminder that love transcends anything, if not everything. Much love and many blessings.
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