Welcome to my version of Throw-Back Thursday, blog style. I'm taking Thursdays to revisit some older posts. I hope you enjoy the trip back in time.
(Originally published 24-JUL-2012)
Yesterday I took the day off. Completely off. No work, no housework, nothing but spending the day with Abby.
First we dropped Boo off at her school. Then....
We went to Dunkin Donuts and discovered the joy of the new Oreo donut. We went shopping. When offered the choice between doing our nails or going to a playground she chose the playground. We went to lunch, her choice where she could make our own pizza.
I was told I was the best mom ever (I am writing it down to remember when she is 16). I was told that we 'have the most fun together' (I am saving this for the college years).
Then I was told something was missing. I'm biting my tongue to not tell her to be selfish when she says:
The only thing missing was Boo.
So we went to get Boo from school and finished the perfect day.
I read a fantastic post from Eli at Coach Daddy the other day. So wonderful I decided to steal ahem, borrow ahem, use it for inspiration. Lessons he learned from the most valuable source ever: his children. It made me think, as much as I have tried to teach my girls, the lessons I have learned from them are immeasurable.
This is kind of a Jen Kehl type of post but I hope everyone bears with me. I listen to Pandora at work. This means music goes from Eminem to the Drop Kick Murphys to the Glee Soundtrack. The other day right after I heard a song by Eminem the music transitioned to Christina Perry's A Thousand Years (theme from Twilight).
It was the instrumental version so I did not have the singer's voice, just the one in my head. It occurred to me that the song while about true love, to me is about parenthood.
Dear Graduates,
I know you are getting a lot of advice as you transition from High School to College or from College to the "real world". Everyone is telling you to enjoy this, the "best time of your life". As my brother pointed out to me, this isn't quite true. You see the best time of your life has already happened. At the same time you are no where near the best time of your life.
The best time of your life was your first step. Your first day of school. Your first crush. Your first kiss. Your first bike ride.
The best time of your life was the moment you received your license. The day you pitched your first no-hitter. The day you scored the winning goal or you starred in the school play. The night of your first sleep over.
The best time of your life was finding your best friend, for real.
The best time of your life was your first dance, your first homecoming, your prom, your graduation day.
The best time of your life will be your first apartment, your first love, your first 'real' job. The day you started exploring the world without a chaperone. The day you realized you can still call home.
The best time of your life will be taking trips with friends, experiencing the world at 18, 28, 38 and beyond. You will laugh and cry and say remember when you talk about those trips in the not so distant future.
The best time of your life will be finding your true love, the person who makes you whole. Your new life together, starting your family.
The best time of your life will be when your child comes into your life, when you explore the world through their eyes.
The best time of your life will be after the children are grown and you are still holding hands with your mate.
You will have many best times of your life. Don't focus on this fleeting moment, don't squander or yearn for this time in your life. Live each moment as it should be lived.
That moment will become the best time of your life. Enjoy it.
